Mom.
The influence of a MOM.
The mother/son relationship is an important part of who you are.
The way your mom has handled your needs as a child has shaped you worldview, your relationships, your marriage, your career, your self image, your life. What we learned in our relationship with our mother deeply affects every area of our adult life.
Two significant breaks with mom.
A healthy relationship with mom requires two significant breaks.
There must be a physical separates from mom at birth to end the oneness that began at conception. There must be emotional separation from mom when a boy transitions to manhood.
Many men are left deeply entrenched or overly connected to mom.
Men who are overly connected to mom can feel like their masculinity is fragile. The therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife and they wall become one flesh(Genesis 2:24). The Mother Wound and its effects.
Mother wound: An unhealthy emotional relationship with mom that causes a son to either be threatened by the influence of women later on in life or to over identify and become submissive to influence of women.
Men with a mother wound will often drift to one of two extremes in how they relate to women. They often become Dominant Males or soft males.
Dominant males: too controlling towards women. Soft males: became passive and submissive towards women. Common Characteristics of Mother Wound.
Usually, the mother wound is not one inattention but overattention. This wound often beings with an absent or distant father. Marion Levy writes that modern men “are overwhelmingly likely to have been reared under the direct domination and supervision of females from birth to maturity. ” Four Types Of MOMS That Contribute To The Mother Wound. The unintentional Mom. She stays oblivious to her son’s need to connect with other men and make a healthy break with her. The Hurting Mom. A woman who has lost emotional connection with her husband and she make up for this by over connecting to her son.
The Unwilling to release MoM.
Oftentimes, there moms have dominant personalities and they simply love to be in control.
The Fill in the Gap Mom.
This can lead to over connection and dependence if the son doesn’t have strong male mentors to guide him.
Jesus and his mom: Did you know that Jesus had some conflict with his mom?
“Then Jesus entered a house, and again a crowd gathered, so that he and his disciples were not even able to eat. When his family heard about it, they went to take charge of him, for they said, He is out of his mind ‘Then Jesus’ mother and brothers arrived. and they told him, your mother and brothers are out side looking for you, Who are my mother and brothers? he asked. Then he looked at those seated in a circle around him and said, Here are my mother and brothers! whomever does God’s will s my brothers and sisters and mother(mark3:20-21;31-35) Jesus had healthy boundaries with his mom.” Near the cross f Jesus stood his mother when Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he love standing nearby, he said to his mother (John 19:25).
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Ganesh Bharrat is currently serving a 75-year sentence for murder and manslaughter. He can be reached by phone at 203-633-7118, or by mail at:
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