We covered a lot of ways that people are different and what others hate in them, but why is it so prevalent in society? What is the cause of all this hatred?

I know this may sound strange – but I like being different. It sure beats being like everyone else. Embracing differences is a good thing. It expands our minds, feelings, and personality.

First our minds. When we accept a person for who they are, we change our way of thinking. We have to teach ourselves not to be judgmental. We have to set our own ego aside so that we can learn about the other person.

Second our feelings. As we learn more about someone different from us, we can begin to feel empathy for them. Some or many might think this as a weakness, but I see it as a strength. It is this empathy that allows you to mentally put yourself in their shoes. It is foundational in understanding how to overcome your differences, make the necessary changes in your life, and eliminate the hatred.

And third our personality. With these self changes, we alter our personality. With those alterations, we become more likable and accepted by others also. We can then begin to build better relationships with others. And that is the whole point of being different – acceptability.

So yes, I embrace my differences, and I accept the differences of others. Does this make me strange? I hope so.

Now go out and say “hi” to someone who not like you. Invite them out for a cup of coffee or a hamburger or something, and get to know them. You may surprise yourself by finding out you may have more in common than what appearances first gave.

Matthew F. Mehlhaff
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