I have been incarcerated for going on thirty six years now, When I came to prison the Flintstones was the popular cartoon and Male identity was losing it’s grip on the world of leadership. From the time I was locked up until now, LOVE has dominated the worlds reasonings for what and why they do things. Good or bad it was all in the name of LOVE. Or so they say. Hitlers’ style of love for the German people was not so much felt by by the Jewish Families he victimized to prove his love. A Soldiers’ love for country has to be tempered and desensitized in order to carry out orders in war. So to get a grip on love one must decide for himself who is the architect of the feeling? God, Mom, my Wife? Who is qualified to dictate love? I have not heard from my family members since my incarceration, not a one! Maternal or Fraternal. 1000 family members out there and If you asked me to call one for freedom, to go home today, I would remain incarcerated. Yet, while growing up in my large family we all claimed to love one another. Some are even in the MINISTRY yet they fail to love someone whom they have seen, and claim to love God, whom they have not seen. What if I was God? I am not the black sheep in my family I graduated high school, went to college graduated from there, then, took care of my Mother, and “I thought I was LOVING? ” Who can tell me that ain’t love? ” I had a phone call with my brother in 1996 for 15 mins. and even though he has been to prison, he is M.I.A and has yet to contact me since 1996. Nor has any member of my southern value, raised family I fear dying and no one will care to even know what day and time it happened. My brother said, during our phone call that The reason I have not been loved is because, My siblings are still learning how to love themselves so, why should I expect them to love me? That was a Deep revelation and sent me into a 25 year search for what is this thing we call love. It starts with sacrifice, The thing we must give up in order to love……….. is ourselves. That’s why it is so difficult to find true love as opposed to liking someone a hellofva whole lot. LOVE requires forgiveness and a keen awareness of when we are personally not being loving. Most people love hardest during tragedy. why? We as humans have a bad habit of searching for a reason to love when we were made, as the personification of LOVE. We were taught during our upbringing how to hate, who to hate and justify hating based on another human beings inability to show love. Many men lay awake in these prison cots thinking of all the women and/or men they have fucked over in their lives because of their unwillingness to sacrifice themselves in the opportunities and moments they had to express true love to another. It’s also hard enough to find true love because of how stupid we come off when loving in one direction when we should be running in another. Most couples out there are not balanced in love, One mate is more loyal and almost always love, more than the other. We start out our relationships loving the newness of all things, relationship, but that quickly ends when we have poured out too much of ourselves in the persuit of personal pleasure. Sex will not hold a marriage together because the newness wears off and no one want to eat vanilla ice cream everyday for the next ten years when we see all those other flavors every time we go to the grocery store. That’s why the Lions Den is a popular place for married couples. It’s a way to put sprinkles on a vanilla icecream flavored sex life disguised as LOVE. So how do we get a hold on this thing called love. Well, it all starts with Empathy and the application of the Golden rule in our lives. What is the golden rule? Ask the person who claims to love you more than anyone else. I remember back in the 80’s when the term “LOVE IS” was trending everywhere. Yet I never seen it answered… ‘LOVE IS…….. ME!’ Because no one wants that job. Love will eliminate the need for Police stations and Prisons, Militaries and rivals, Divorce and homelessness, Hunger and Division just to name a few will cease to exist. 1Cor. 13 defines AGAPE to a tee, but many who use the bible as a medium, neglect the true essence and purpose of these God given instructions. I will be writing a lot about this subject which is the only true vaccine for the conditions in our world today. All the worlds’ hate and Prejudices come from ignorance and fear. Get rid of these two things and we have a chance to change the world. Human imperfection also makes it difficult to show intense genuine love for one another. Even so, we must try to defy the odds and become the example others may need to see. That’s the only way to make PEACE be IMPARTIAL, and HOSPITABLE. Fragmented unloving relationships keeps us from pleasant times and maintaining our sanity.
TEN AXIOMS IN LOVE….
IN LOVE, A HEART CAN NEVER BE STOLEN. IT ONLY GOES WHERE IT WANTS TO.
LIFE IS PAIN AND THE ENJOYMENT OF LOVE IS AN ANESTHETIC.
WE ALL NEED TO ESCAPE THE RESTRAINTS OF OUR UNLOVING LEGACIES.
ONCE A RELATIONSHIP SPARKS, SOMEONE IS HELD RESPONSIBLE FOR MAKING SURE THE FIRE DOESN’T GO OUT. ALL TOO OFTEN, THAT BURDEN FALLS ON THE WOMANS SHOULDERS.
NATURE TEACHES US TO LOVE OUR FRIENDS…. BUT RELIGION TEACHES US TO LOVE OUR ENEMIES.
WHEN YOU FORGIVE, YOU SET A PRISONER FREE AND DISCOVER THAT THE PRISONER WAS YOU.
I DARE YOU TO START…. SO FAR WE HAVE DONE A LOT OF TALKING BUT WHEN DO WE START?
A PERSON DONT HAVE TO BE GREAT TO START….. BUT YOU HAVE TO START IF YOU WISH TO BE GREAT.
YOU CAN ONLY LEARN TO LOVE BY LOVING. desales
REAL LOVE IS LOVING THAT WHICH IS UNLOVABLE OR IT IS NO VIRTUE AT ALL.
FEELINS COME AND GO… LOVE DONT DO THAT
Anthony D. Simmons ODRC #A194507
P.O box 5500
Chillicothe, Ohio. 45601