I could never understand why a man would want to harm a woman because she doesn’t want to be with him. Now don’t get me wrong, most of have had our feelings hurt by someone. Rejection never feels good. But women out number us 7 to 1.Now I’m not saying be a player,nor am I saying not to fight for something that you think is worth it.But when you realize that its over, man up and move on. You have a 6and1odds of finding someone just as good or better. But even if you don’t find something better, life goes on. Both of you can still be happy with other people. Because if you truly love someone, you want to see them happy no matter what.I’ve seen people find happiness that they never knew they could find just by focusing on themselves and putting themselves in position to find happiness. I’ve been hurt and I’ve been played crazy by women in and outside of prison. My integrity and pride as a man wouldn’t allow me to do anything to hurt them purposely. Regardless to how they feel about me,I couldn’t sleep with myself if I did something foul to bring them harm. I had a woman who was my maintenance supervisor wanting to be in a relationship with me. I figured out early on that we were to different for it to work. But she asked me one day,what if she decided to call it off, would I tell on her.I felt so disrespected by the question.Shortly after that I quit working for her. Because if she thought that of me, she didn’t have a clue of who I was as man. The moral of all this is that their is no need to harm the people it doesn’t work out with. Physically or emotionally. Life goes on men. 7to 1 odds.

ARCHIE WILDER
DOC #414-917