The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely the one who dropped it.
In order to complain about something or someone, u have to believe that something better exists. U have a reference point of something u prefer that u are not willing to take responsibility for creating.
If u didn’t believe there was something better possible, more money, a bigger house, a more fulfilling job, more fun, a more loving partner, u couldn’t complain. So u have this image of something better & u know u would prefer it, but u are unwilling to take the risks required to create it. Complaining is an ineffective response to an event that does not produce a better outcome.
People only complain about things they can do something about. We don’t complain about the things we have no power over. Have u ever heard anyone complain about gravity? No.
Why not? If it weren’t for gravity, people wouldn’t fall down the stairs, planes wouldn’t fall out the sky. But nobody complains about it. And the reason is because gravity just exists. There is nothing anyone can do about gravity, so we just accept it. We know that complaining will not change it, so we don’t complain about it. In fact, because it just is, we use gravity to our advantage. We build aqueducts down mountains to carry water to us, & we use drains to take away our waste.
Even more interesting is that we choose to play w/gravity. We jump, ski, skydive, throw things, play sports, all of which require gravity.
The circumstances we complain about are all situations we can change, but have chosen not to. We can get a better job, find a more loving partner, make more money, move to where the jobs are, live in a nicer house, & eat healthier food. But all these would require us to change.
We could: Learn to cook healthier food; say no in the face of peer pressure; quit & find a better job; take time to conduct due diligence; trust the Word of God & Holy Spirit; Go back to school to pursue your dream; take better care of your possessions; reach out for help; get rid of things & or people who are hindering your progress & goals & before all seek & recieve the guidance & promises of God.
But why don’t we simply do those things? It’s because they involve risks of being unemployed, left alone, or ridiculed & judged by others. We run the risk of failure, confrontation, or being wrong. U run the risk of of your parents, neighbors, spouse, children, peers disapproving u. Making a change might take effort, money & time. It might be uncomfortable, difficult or confusing. And so to avoid risking any of those uncomfortable feelings & experiences, u stay put & complain about it.
As i stated before, complaining means u have a reference point for something better that u would prefer but that u are willing to take the risk of creating. Either accept that u are making the choice to stay where u are, take responsibility for your choice & stop complaining… or…take the risk of doing something new & different to create your life exactly the way u want it.
(If u want to get from where u are to where u want to be, of course you’re going to have to take that risk). So make the decision to stop complaining, to stop spending time w/complainers, & get on w/creating the life of your dreams.
Davin L. Wallace
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