An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life: “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is good- he is joy, peace, hope, love, serenity, himility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside of you – and inside every other person, too.”
The boy thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?” The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
The Cherokee grandfathers’ story resignates with my own experiences in how I feed the negative personality ( evil wolf) within. My own bouts of personal inner struggles lead me down a path of selfishness decades ago. Developing these bad traits did not happen over night. Through years of self-neglect I embarked on a destructive path that lead me to prison.
Recognizing the signs of selfishness, anger, and resentment took years of personal development. I did not have the patience or willingness to listen to others. At first, I denied constructive guidance from those who truly cared about my well-being.
Even though, blinded from self-serving needs and wants there was something deep within that kept pushing me towards change. As hard as I fought the desire to be insensitive life would not allow these negative factors to flourish.
“So many of life’s problems stem from too much or too little of somethng, we spend our lives searching for balance.”
Healing the heart involves attending to the most vulnerable and sacred aspects within ourselves. Only through attending to their truth can we drop the protective armor that keeps us bound to the ego, bound to smaller parts of ourselves. Manipulation, derision, criticisms, or command will not work. We can only melt the armor with the combination of feeling and understanding that is love.
Through love we are able to expose our instinctual core and evolve to the next step of expressing out truth. Through love we are able to embrace and heal the larger world around us. Relationship furthers the evolution of personal development and inner change.
In closing, breaking the habitual patterns and creating a new productive relationships helps align spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical defects learned through a life of self-abuse. By healing myself, I found that life’s journey to be filled with compassionate bliss and awakening.
Feeding the good wolf has been wonderful….