X. BE YE – Shield Thyself From Thine Enemy’s Slings and Arrows
Very few people know the true shielding power of “And”. If used correctly, “and” can be used as an effective shield against ill-conconceived expressions. It’s power is circular in nature and protects you by “continually moving the goal post of thine enemy,” if you will. It’s like when kids go back and forth saying, “I know you are, but what am I. I know you are, but what am I.” Neither child ever wins the argument because the argument goes on and on in a continuous loop. It’s also like saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
These childish spats are effective training exercises for the grown-up world. But unfortunately, as children grow older, their egos tend to grow with them and the offenses that were once considered harmless child’s play become serious and painful, particularly in the presence of laughing and appraising peers. It’s important to remain conscious of this so you don’t react in a way that escalates a matter.
So if you must, laugh and absorb the insulting expression by saying “And, is that all you got? Surely you can do better than that. And… (person tries again) and… (and again) AND… (the expression is attenuated and the person gives up). You might even say, “You’re right, I have a big nose. And…”
For example, days ago I heard a guy tell a sexual joke to another guy at his expense. Several guys in neighboring cells bursted out in laughter. But the guy who was the butt of the joke laughed with them and told the joke-teller that was a good one. Later that day, the joke-teller tried to set the same guy up for another joke, and the guy said, “Nah, you ain’t getting me any more. I know what you’re up to.”
For the next few days the joke-teller kept trying to get him to bite on a joke, but the guy wouldn’t bite. What the joke-teller failed to realize, however, is that even if he had got another joke over on the guy, it wouldn’t have been nearly as funny as the first time because the repetition of his joke attempts lessened the impact of any future jokes. His future jokes were forced and less organic. In the end, his jokes grew stale with repetition.
The same thing happens with physical violence. If someone hits another and the person being hit urges the aggressor to hit him again and again, the aggressor’s striking zeal will eventually wane and he’ll lose interest in hitting the other person. However, although this may work in most cases, there are cases where encouraging your aggressor to continue his aggression may have no deterring effects.
You should use the “And Shield” as more of a last line of defense against ill-conceived expressions. The more you say it, the more the person launching expressions at you will feel bad and be perceived by others as bad. Most civil societies frown upon anyone who kicks someone while he’s down or clearly isn’t fighting back. The “And Shield” functions as a form of defensive psychological warfare, something Bruce Lee famously characterized as “the art of fighting without fighting.”
Now it’s time to BE YE and “halt thine enemy’s encroachment upon Ye,” lest Ye suffer regrettable sacrilege–that “Ye live not as Ye.
Jacob J. Gamet
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